I was more or less sold on the story until you openly started talking about your midwest mafia or mafia-style ties. So now I'm calling shenanigans.

You've gone from something being a personal tragedy to a tumblr in just a few days. It's also moved into odd whodunnit territory. Whatever.

You state that you can't get in touch with her family because her father left her when she was young, her mother is in a mental hospital for dementia and doesn't like you at all, and her brother who died last year.

You also state that you can't get in touch with her friends because her facebook was deleted when she left you, her friends aren't internet savvy, and you don't have any of their contact information.

So, here's my question: If you're half a nation apart from her, you can't get in touch with anyone in her life, and you're for all intents and purposes in an information/contact deadzone, how'd you find out her brother died?

Wish you the best, my friend, if something bad did actually happen. Maybe I can help.